Most couples who contact me are not unsure whether they love each other.
They’re exhausted by the same conversations going nowhere.
You talk, explain, defend, withdraw, apologise — and a few days later you’re back in the same place again.
This happens because relationship problems are rarely caused by a lack of care or effort.
They are caused by an interaction pattern that takes over the moment emotions rise.
One partner wants clarity.
The other protects themselves.
Both feel misunderstood.
Until that pattern changes, communication techniques and good intentions don’t last.
My role is not simply to let you talk — it is to slow the interaction while it’s happening, translate what each of you actually means, and stabilise the conversation so you can finally hear one another properly.
When the pattern changes, tension reduces, understanding increases, and couples can clearly see whether and how the relationship can move forward.
Many clients say the relief is noticeable earlier than they expected because we are working with the process creating the conflict, not just the topics you argue about.
I offer a complimentary 30-minute consultation where we briefly clarify: • what keeps repeating • why it keeps happening • and the specific steps we would take to change it
You can then decide calmly whether this feels right for you both.
Vincent Clohessy Couples Relationship and Marriage Counsellor
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4.9out of 558 reviews
Hope
27 December 2025
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We came to Vincent during what genuinely felt like a make-or-break moment in our relationship, and I don’t think I can fully put into words how grateful I am that we found him.
Throughout our time working together, Vincent guided us through all the areas where I had concerns — communication, conflict resolution, intimacy, parenting, and our household dynamic. He helped us learn how to respond rather than react, which has been transformative. I feel noticeably calmer and more at ease, with far less anxiety around potential disagreements, and I feel much more supported by my partner.
The sessions encouraged deep self-reflection and pushed me, gently but powerfully, to step outside my comfort zone and really observe my own reactions. I now have a much better understanding of how to communicate my needs and expectations, and I feel equipped with practical tools to handle conflict in a healthy way. I’m also far more able to see things from my partner’s perspective and respond with empathy and understanding.
Vincent’s counselling and coaching has been incredibly valuable not only for our relationship, but also for my growth as a parent. His recommendations — including books and the idea of creating a shared “parenting guide” — led to meaningful reflection and lasting changes in how we parent, helping us respond consciously rather than react emotionally.
Our communication is stronger, our understanding of each other’s needs is deeper, and because of that, I feel able to love and feel loved much more fully. It truly feels like our relationship has been saved. I’m deeply thankful to Vincent for his guidance and support, and to my partner for being willing to do this work with me. I couldn’t recommend Vincent highly enough.
Aimee
3 July 2026
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We went from ready to give up to having a future together
Our relationship was toxic, hard work, and strained. We were arguing over things we didn't actually know what we were arguing about, and we were both wanting to be right. We were ready to give up.
What became clear was that we both needed to start listening and start showing empathy for the other person. All of it helped us as a couple. We listen more now (still have work to do). Our communication is calmer and we have more quality time together.
Most importantly, we've gone from being ready to give up to having a future. We need to work hard for it, but it's possible.
If another couple asked us about this work, we'd tell them to absolutely go for it and have an open mind and take every bit of advice and help given by Vincent. We've rated this 10 out of 10 for recommending.
Emily
15 December 2025
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Very reliable & easy to communicate with to arrange appointments
Really try’s to understand your background and details around your situation before advising
Focuses on positive strategies to help you overcome problem areas
Sophie Hall
12 January 2026
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Working with Vincent has genuinely been life-changing for both me and my relationship. Before counselling, I struggled to speak my mind and often bottled things up. Through Vincent’s guidance, I gained the confidence to communicate openly, calmly, and honestly — not just with my partner, but in everyday life.
Vincent provided practical tools, insightful resources, and powerful exercises that helped build real understanding and connection in our relationship. I felt respected, validated, and truly listened to throughout the entire process. We explored everything we came to counselling for and left with clear strategies and communication skills that we will use for life.
Both my partner and I have changed significantly for the better, and we now feel strong, aligned, and confident about our future together. I would wholeheartedly recommend Vincent to anyone seeking meaningful change and a healthier, more connected relationship.
Jessica
20 October 2025
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We are so grateful of our journey with Vincent, he has given us the strength to become better people, both as individuals and as a couple. We have both made huge personal changes to ensure happiness is the main aspect of our relationship, making sure that we show each other love and respect every day. Our journey was tough and emotional at times but Vincent helped us to overcome obstacles, both past and present, in order to focus on the future. We really enjoyed the sessions, they provided a calm and safe space to talk about all the issues we had. The amount of appreciation we have for the programme is immense and I can honestly say we couldn’t have done it without Vincent. He has made a hugely positive change to our lives and we hope to never look back!! Thank you Vincent!!